Everyone’s Perception of Me Is Wrong, And I Love It

I used to spend so much time trying to correct people’s perception of me. I wanted to make sure everyone understood my intentions, that they saw my heart, that they knew I wasn’t who they might have assumed I was. It felt important back then, like being misunderstood was something I had to fix before it spread. But over time, I learned something that completely shifted the way I see it.

Now, when people get me wrong, I smile. Not because I enjoy being misjudged, but because I finally understand that their perception has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with where they’re looking from.

People see you through their own lens. A lens shaped by their experiences, insecurities, fears, and hopes. Some people will see your confidence as arrogance because they’ve never been taught to stand tall in their own. Some will see your silence as weakness when really, you’ve just learned that not everything deserves a response. And some will see your ambition as selfishness when all you’re really doing is trying to build something that matters.

For a long time, I tried to chase understanding. I wanted people to get it. To get me. I thought if I could explain myself clearly enough, show enough proof, or demonstrate enough good intentions, I could change their perspective. But no matter how much you explain, people only understand from their level of awareness, not yours. And realizing that freed me.

I started asking myself, “What am I trying to prove, and to who?” Because if the answer wasn’t me, then I was wasting energy that could’ve gone into my growth. I began to see the beauty in being misunderstood. It meant I was evolving in ways that didn’t fit the version of me they once knew. It meant I was breaking molds, stepping out of expectations, and doing things people didn’t see coming.

When people’s perception of you doesn’t match your reality, it’s often a sign that you’re moving. You’re growing. You’re no longer where they left you. And that’s a good thing. Growth confuses people who haven’t seen the work it took to get here.

There are moments when it still stings, I’ll admit. I’m human. It hurts when someone paints a picture of you that you don’t recognize. But I remind myself that what they see isn’t the whole frame. They’re looking through a window, not living the story.

Here’s what I learned: the less you try to convince people of who you are, the more you’ll attract those who already see you. The right people don’t need convincing. They recognize your energy, they feel your intention, and they understand your silence just as much as your words. The ones who misread you were never meant to read you fully anyway.

So now, I love being misunderstood. It’s become a quiet superpower. It protects my peace and keeps my path clear. When people think they have me figured out, I don’t argue. I let them keep the version of me that fits their story, and I keep living mine. Because the real me doesn’t need to explain himself. He’s too busy becoming.

If you’ve ever felt trapped by how others see you, I want you to remember something: the version of you that people talk about is not your responsibility. You don’t owe anyone clarification for choosing growth. You don’t need to dim your light to make someone else comfortable. You don’t have to slow down to make yourself more understandable.

Every time someone misunderstands you, let that be a reminder that you’ve stepped outside the box they tried to keep you in. The people who truly see you will meet you there. And the ones who don’t? Let them talk. Let them assume. Let them believe whatever helps them sleep at night.

You don’t have to defend your truth when you’re living it. Just keep showing up. Keep creating. Keep becoming. The right eyes will catch it eventually, but the most important eyes already see it…yours.

And if you’re in a season right now where people’s opinions are loud and heavy, take this as your sign to breathe. You are not what they say. You are not what they think. You are who you know you are. That’s what matters.

It’s okay to be misunderstood. It’s okay to be doubted. It’s okay if people don’t see the full picture yet. That means you still have chapters left to write.

Everyone’s perception of me is wrong, and I love it. Because that means I’m still growing, still changing, still becoming everything I said I would be. And if that makes me unrecognizable to some, then good. That means I’m finally becoming recognizable to myself.

So here’s my challenge to you: stop trying to fit their picture of you and start painting your own. Let your evolution confuse people. Let your peace offend them. Let your growth silence the noise.

And when you’re ready to talk about how to embrace that version of yourself, the one that no one really understands yet…join me for a 1:1. Let’s refocus, redefine, and realign the picture, together.

Hope this helps, 

-B