It has always boggled my brain how we are all human, allegedly. I truly believe we feel and experience the same emotions throughout our lives. Because of that, we should all know what sadness feels like. Some may even know depression, mental health struggles, love, pain, isolation, or even something as small as a stubbed toe.
So why is it that when one person isolates themselves, for whatever reason, their “friends” assume there is an issue instead of trying to understand what that person might be going through and knowing that it is not about them? It used to bother me, but these days I see it differently. It almost feels like a power.
What it has shown me is that maybe people are so deep in their own thoughts that they realize they may have played a role in what you are going through. Instead of addressing it, they stay away and allow those thoughts to linger.
I came to this realization by using myself as an example. When people I support, care for, and call friends go silent, I reach out at least once. I ask if they are okay, if I can help, or if they would prefer space. No matter the response, I never take it personally or act differently.
When the opposite happens to me, I take note of who disappears during my isolation. That awareness helps me adjust their place in my life. That is what I mean when I say isolation can be a superpower, one that is often hidden.
We are human and we feel energy. When things like this happen, of course we feel them. The key is to look deeper into the possible reasons and, most importantly, to listen to the signs, our intuition, and our gut the first time.
I am just a hopeless philosopher figuring life out as I go and sharing thoughts along the way. In doing that, I have become a person for myself.
Alright Justin, land the plane.
If you made it this far and you are a “friend,” just know your thoughts are valid and you should probably stay away. If I have not seen, talked to, or heard from you in the last thirty to sixty days, let us keep it right there.
And if you are a reader, I hope you take something from this. Remember that when you choose what is best for you, your growth, and your mental health, some people may take it personally. If they do not even try to understand, chances are they never cared to listen anyway, or it is simply time for you to move forward on your journey.
Everyone is not meant to be in the room, at the table, or at the function. That includes you at times, and that is okay. I hope your 2026 is filled with all things YOU.
I assure you that if you put yourself first and go where you are accepted and understood, you will see more fruit from this thing we call life.
And if you ever need someone to help spark your creativity, consider booking a one on one creative direction session with me.
Hope this helps,
-B
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