You Don’t Want What You Think You Want

You don’t want the money, you want the freedom.
You don’t want the partner, you want the connection.
You don’t want the success, you just want to feel like you matter.

I’ve had to remind myself of these truths again and again. It’s easy to get lost in the chase, running after things we think will complete us, when really, we’re after the feeling behind them.

For years, I told myself I wanted more money. I thought more zeros in the bank would mean peace, happiness, and ease. But every time the check cleared, I realized the high didn’t last. The quiet that followed was louder than ever. What I truly wanted wasn’t the dollar signs… it was the freedom those dollar signs promised. Freedom to create without pressure. Freedom to take a day off without guilt. Freedom to breathe.

It’s the same with love. You don’t just want a partner, you want connection. You want to feel seen without performing. Heard without having to beg. I’ve been in situations that looked picture perfect on the outside but felt hollow on the inside. That’s when I learned the lesson. It’s not the partner that changes your life, it’s the connection that anchors you to something deeper.

And success? Most people aren’t chasing trophies or titles. They’re chasing the feeling that they matter. That their presence is making an imprint on the world. I’ve sat in rooms with “successful” people who felt emptier than those still grinding toward their first big break. Why? Because they hit their goals but never tapped into meaning.

Here’s the truth most people don’t want to hear. Manifestation doesn’t start with a vision board, it starts with your nervous system. “The Nervous System of Manifestation”

You don’t manifest from your thoughts. You manifest from your embodiment.

The universe isn’t listening to what you say. It’s paying attention to who you’re being.

Think about it, if you’re begging for peace but your body is always tense, how can peace land? If you’re asking for love but every move you make is guarded, how can love stay?

If you want to receive love, become the space love wants to enter.
If you want peace, be the stillness your future is looking for.
If you want freedom, live like you already deserve it, not like you’re still waiting for permission.

There was a moment I’ll never forget… I was sitting in a coffee shop “Starbucks to be exact” with my notebook, frustrated because things weren’t moving fast enough in my career. I kept writing down goals, bigger projects, more money, more opportunities, and I was mad at myself for not being “there” yet.

But when I paused, I asked myself, What am I really after? And the answer wasn’t money, clients, or followers. It was the feeling of being in flow. The feeling of waking up every day with excitement. The feeling of being fully present in my work. That’s when it clicked. I didn’t have to wait for a future milestone. I could choose to embody that energy now.

That realization changed everything. Once I stopped chasing and started embodying, opportunities began to show up in ways I couldn’t plan. It was never about what I wanted on paper, it was about who I was becoming. I call this “The Realization That Changed Me”

A Reminder For You… Every feeling you’re chasing, freedom, love, peace, significance… it already lives inside you. You don’t need to wait until you “arrive.” You don’t need more followers, more money, or the perfect relationship to feel what you’ve been searching for. You can access it now.

I know this because I’ve lived both sides. The chasing. The striving. The waiting. And I’ve also lived the shift, the moment you realize you already have what you’ve been searching for.

That’s why I repeat these words over and over again, in different ways, across different platforms. Because I know one day, they’ll stick for you the way they stuck for me.

If these words landed with you, if you feel the pull to not just hear this message but actually live it. I want to invite you into something deeper. Join me for a 1:1 Creative Direction Session.

This is where we’ll get clear on what you’re really chasing, not just the surface goals, but the deeper feelings. Together, we’ll shape your vision, align it with who you truly are, and build a path that feels both inspiring and sustainable.

Because you don’t have to wait for “someday.” You can start embodying it now.

Hope this helps,

– B